When I was pregnant, I was scared out of my mind at the thought of delivering a baby. This fear was always there but it kicked in to overdrive somewhere around 30 weeks gestation. It was so bad that when people would ask me if I was “excited”, I couldn’t even bring myself to say something like, “I’m excited to hold my baby.”
I was not one bit excited to have a baby. I was terrified.
All I could think about was the pain and how I did not think I was actually capable of giving birth; I couldn’t even look forward to the end result - a beautiful baby boy.
I realize that feeling anxious about childbirth is natural but I believe that this fear only contributes to the pain. And if you are so crippled by your fear, as I was, then you will miss out on the milestones of your pregnancy.
While my labor turned out to be nothing like I had hoped and I found myself in the hospital having to conquer fear, once again, I can say that I was pretty calm and at ease for the last several weeks of my pregnancy.
I did a complete 180. I truly was not afraid.
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Here are 3 things I did that helped me to conquer my fear of childbirth:
I watched childbirth videos.
It’s natural to fear the unknown and giving birth is, especially for the first time, is full of unknowns. At the suggestion of my friend and Doula, I watched natural childbirth videos on YouTube in preparation for my own delivery. I believe this played a big part in easing my mind about childbirth because the more I watched the less “unknown” it became; the more familiar I became with the process, the more I began to feel that I too could join the ranks of the millions of women who have given birth.
I memorized quotes about fear.
For me, most of these quotes came in the form of Bible verses because faith is a big part of my life and where I draw encouragement but you could easily adapt this to reading positive quotes regarding fear.
I looked up Bible verses that addressed fear and wrote them down on index cards that I made from card stock. I put some around my mirror where I do my makeup and the rest I left in a pile that I would read through regularly. and I memorized them.
Again, you could use any quotes you want that address fear and read them over and over… and over!
I listened to Childbirth declarations.
In watching childbirth videos I came across one where the woman attributed her “easy” childbirth to listening to the CD Childbirth in the Glory during labor. Full disclosure, I really didn’t believe child labor could be “easy” or “painless” but I was willing to give it a try!
I downloaded Childbirth in the Glory and listened to it every night for the last four weeks of my pregnancy. I also listened to it any time I needed to relax. While I did not end up with an easy or painless childbirth experience, this CD helped tremendously in keeping my pre-labor anxieties at bay.
In order for me to overcome my debilitating fear, I had to surround myself with positive messages - I watched them, recited them and listened to them - I starved my fear by feeding myself messages of hope and faith in myself that I could handle childbirth no matter what would happen in the delivery room.
How did (or do) you fight the fear of childbirth?
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