Full disclosure, I have not seen Bad Moms Christmas or the original Bad Moms. But, wait, how can I do a review then? I'm not! This is not my review or opinion of the movies or those that choose to watch them. I am not even suggesting that the movies aren't entertaining or that they don't have a positive message. Again, I haven't seen them, so I can't speak to any of that.
I did watch the trailer for Bad Moms Christmas before sitting down to write this post. And, from what I saw, there is a good message for moms. There is definitely truth in that there is a lot of pressure that comes with being a mom and the holiday season only adds to that pressure - it seems that we have a lot more traditions to carry on with our kids than our moms did and the celebrations are certainly more elaborate. But I can't help but be unsettled by what seems to have become quite popular in today's mom culture - glorifying any type of motherhood that doesn't lend itself to trying too hard, or sometimes at all.
Instead of rejecting perfectionism, we have elevated run-of-the-mill.
Believe me, I am not suggesting we strive for perfection. I think if you follow my blog (especially my Instagram!) you probably know that. I am far from a perfect a mom. I'm also not saying that we shouldn't let ourselves off the hook from all the pressure but it seems like we are inundated with messages that are contrary to what we most likely teach our children - that doing our best is important. We're told it's OK to be an OK mom and we all know "there's no way to be a perfect mom but a million ways to be a good one".
But do I really want to just be an OK mom?
Most moms aren't satisfied with teaching their kids to be mediocre humans and, yet, mediocrity has somehow become the ultimate goal of motherhood. I know that I am not perfect and that there truly is no way to be a perfect mom but I'm striving to be much more than "the world's okayest mom".
I want to be the best mom ever. And by that, I don't mean that I want to be better than you or anyone else.
Being "the best" isn't a competition between moms. It's a journey of self-improvement. Every day, I should strive to do my best and be the best mom for my child.
Just as I teach him to be his best.
So, while it may make us feel better to know that we don't need to be perfect and maybe it's funny to classify that as a "bad" mom, I do think it is important that we are mindful of this glorification of mediocre motherhood. I know that, personally, I have "let myself go" in many ways, all in the name of not "having to be perfect". But, here's the thing not only does my son deserve so much better than that but I deserve better than that. I deserve to do things that make me feel better about myself as a person and as a mom.
I deserve to be more than mediocre and so do you!