As moms it is really easy to put ourselves on the back burner. (Have you read the story about my underwear?) I am extremely grateful to be a mom, especially since it is something I really didn't think was going to happen for me. While I make a conscious effort not to complain or be negative about motherhood, sometimes I think about the old me and, well... I kind of miss her. On extremely rare occasions, I even get to be her... and it feels good. Of course, this puts my mom guilt in full effect.
But it shouldn't!
Just because we are moms doesn't mean we can't enjoy things other than being a mom or that we shouldn't pursue our dreams or goals. Mom guilt might say it's selfish but part of caring for our kids, is caring for ourselves. And that includes dreaming and goal setting.
Here are 3 reasons you should pursue your dreams as a mom:
Dreaming brings life.
Anything you do day in and day out is likely to either wear on you or start to feel a little mundane. Motherhood is no different. As amazing as motherhood is, it's easy to feel stuck in the routine. One way to breath life back into, well... life, is to pursue your dreams. As one of my favorite authors, Matthew Kelly, says, "Dreams animate you".
Basically, dreams bring you to life.
Something I see frequently among moms, particularly across social media, is how tiring it is. Yes, this can be true. Life in general can be tiring. It can also be exciting and invigorating. And, often times, what you make of it is what makes the difference. Could your life use a little animating? Try focusing a little more on the things that bring you life, like your dreams!
It sets an example for your kids.
When I was pregnant, I came to the realization that one day my son and I would likely have a conversation about what it was that I wanted to be when I was a little girl. This changed my life. It is the entire reason I started blogging.
We tell our kids that they can grow up to be anything they want to be, meanwhile, we often haven't done it for ourselves. Of course, I know that dreams sometimes change. But what if they don't? And even if they do, does this mean we shouldn't pursue them because they might change?
The world is full of people that will tell our kids they, can't. This means, we have to work extra hard to show them that they can. Going for your dreams, sets an example for your kids. It shows them that they can and should go for anything they want in life. If you want your kids to be dreamers, then you need to be one yourself.
It prepares you for the future.
I may not know what season of motherhood you are in but I do know this: it is only a season. At some point, things will change - you may feel completely consumed by motherhood right now, but that will not always be the case. Even if some of your dreams don't work for your current stage of life, it's likely they will work later on (perhaps even sooner than you think). It's also likely that there are things you can do right now to prepare for that time.
When I was in college, I had a friend who used to say that his biggest fear was his dream coming true and not being ready for it. Dreams don't just happen over night. They often take years of preparation and practice. This may not be your season to live all of your dreams. And that's OK! Use this season to get ready for those dreams to come true.
What are you doing to make your dreams happen?