It's no secret that moms have a hard time investing in themselves. Whether it's the lack of time, guilt, exhaustion or all of the above we have a tendency to put ourselves last. Every. Time. I can buy my son an entire wardrobe faster than you can say Amazon Prime and, yet, I literally had to make it one of my 2017 goals to buy myself an article of clothing each month. (I failed by the way but do my Christmas presents count?)
It's easy to feel guilty about making investments in ourselves, whether it's taking a mom break or buying ourselves some clothes or makeup, it often feels selfish. But it's not selfish, it's necessary. When I am a better person, I can be a better mother.
When we take the time to invest in ourselves, to do something no matter how big or small that makes us happy, it will have a positive impact on how we mother our children. I have come up with a list of small things that make me happy and I my self-care mission is to embrace these things as often as I possibly can... guilt free!
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- Take a hot shower or bath. I know, who feels guilty about taking a shower or bath? I do! But not anymore. (By the way, if you want to make your bath an extra special treat, check out these easy DIY shower bombs at The Crafty Organized Mom!)
- Buy yourself a coffee or tea. Every once in a while I will go to the Starbucks drive-thru and buy myself a chai tea latte. It's usually only after I have acquired a gift card but I'm going to buy myself one and not feel guilty that I spent way too much money!
- Go to Target, ALONE! This is one thing I do pretty well and I'm going to keep on doing it. Seriously, feels like vacation to me.
- Call a friend. I love to text. It's actually my preferred method of communication but, still, nothing beats a nice conversation with a good friend. And since the majority of my friends live in other states, it's extra nice to hear their voices. There's something very comforting about it!
- Go to lunch with a friend. Get out for an hour or two. Be responsible for feeding yourself and only yourself. Don't share your food. Sounds like a perfect treat to me!
- Read a book. I know some of you have got this down. If that's you, will you please send me a message and tell me how you do it? I can't figure out when I will find time to read an entire book but I'm going to do it!
- Do your nails. This doesn't have to be at a salon but, if you can, go for it! When I was pregnant, I got really into Jamberry Nails but since having my son it has become more and more difficult to find the time. I may have to settle for a quick paint job but I will make time to do my nails.
- Watch a chick flick... or whatever movie you want. My current goal is to do this without working at the same time. I often will watch Netflix or Hulu while I work but I will not allow myself to watch a show or a movie without doing something "productive". But, you know sometimes it's okay not to be productive!
- Buy a new article of clothing. I don't care if it's from the clearance rack for $2... if you want it, buy it! It doesn't have to be a major purchase to be a treat.
- Meditate. Take a few minutes and think deeply about something. Focus on a positive thought, quote, poem or, if you are religious, you can meditate on a scripture or prayer. There are many different things we can ponder and get into our hearts and minds.